Thanksgiving, a day all of us in America give thanks to our friends, families, colleagues for being a part of our lives. We also take a minute or two to look around us and be grateful for all that we have as we know that there are some that have fallen on rough times and are struggling to keep a roof over their heads, let alone prepare a Thanksgiving feast. As we look at our children and listen to their laughter as they talk with relatives they do not see very often, we are filled with joy and warmth as we know that this year we are once again fortunate to be with loved ones and all safe and sound. While the turkey snooze starts to set in, we are reminded that Thanksgiving is also the kickoff for the holiday gift giving season.
Thanksgiving, The Kickoff to the Holiday Gift Giving Season
Thanksgiving, the first holiday after the end of the summer where families and friends come together to celebrate. We spend hours planning and then cooking a big feast so we all can sit and share a wonderful meal. For some they start with going around the table and sharing what they are thankful for. Everyone shakes their head in agreement and glasses are raised for it is time to dig in. Mealtime chats start slowly as we have the pass this, pass that, the small talk to catch up and then it starts … the shopping, the sales, the plans and agenda for Black Friday. Our turkey has not even so much as quenched our palate and we are already sharing our holiday shopping plans.
Retailers are pulling out all stops to bring to lure us in; for they know that it has not been the best of years and rebounding to end the year on a high is what is on their agenda. The door busters in the wee hours in the morning, the people camping out all night braving the cold to be sure to get what is on their list.The madness, chaos all so that we can give to our loved ones, friends, etc. Is this what the holiday gift season is all about?
Giving Thanks by Giving Back
Giving thanks to those we care about is easy. What about those that we do not know? We all need a helping hand sometimes and this year we are finding more and more families that need help. The number of homeless families and those seeking public assistance are staggering and continue to grow each day. These are regular people that have lost their jobs, their homes and are doing all that they can to find a warm bed, adequate clothing and food for themselves and their children. The gift giving season for them is going to be dependent upon the good will of others. We are the others. We can make a difference in the lives of others by giving thanks for what we have through giving back to others.
6 Ways to Give Thanks by Giving Back
1. Coats. Eyeing that new coat you saw in the sales circular that is just a must have? Kids outgrew last years coat already? Instead of tossing the old coat, donate it to your local coats for kids. Share the warmth of the holiday cheer by keeping a family properly dressed this winter.
2. Shoes/Boots. Have you seen those gorgeous black boots that have your name written all over them? And, wait, they are a buy one, get one half off? Instead of having 2 pair and having one sit in the closet as we know the 1st pair is your favorite, how about donating the 2nd pair?
3. Clothing. Take the time to clean out the closest, dresser draws to make room for the new fashion trends of the season as you know that sweater that you wore 2x last year is not even getting a sneak peak of the great outdoors this year. Also consider purchasing some items (socks, underwear, undershirts, pajamas, etc) especially for children to donate. Just because a family is poor, it does not mean that they should not be able to have new clothes.
4. Food. Everyone needs food and the food banks are giving out more than they are able to take in. Grab a few extra items next time you are at the grocery store, take advantage of the 10 for 10 sales and help fight hunger. Being hungry for a few hours until you get home is one thing, being hungry having no idea when your next meal will be is another.
5. Toys. We have seen the videos, the commercials and can recall our own kids screams and shrills for what Santa as brought them. It is just what they wanted. Bring that joy to another child this year. As you cross items off your list and recuperate from the Black Friday madness and set out to do it all again on Saturday, add up how much you have saved and consider taking that savings, or a portion of the savings and purchasing toys for kids. Matchbox cars are $.97 at many retailers. $.97 is less than that cup of coffee and brings such joy to a little boy. Barbies, tea sets, crayons, coloring books, action heroes … something. The holiday gift giving is more about the children than it is for adults.
6. Time. Food banks and shelters are always needing volunteers and not just on holidays. Inquire as to what the busiest days are and see where you can schedule time and help. Shelters are at maximum capacity but at the lowest staffing rates. There are also areas where you can donate your time that we do not always think about. Child care. Offering to lend a hand with watching the kids when a friend has an interview, is not feeling well, needs to go to the grocery store; providing transportation or just spending time with them so that they know that they are cared about.
There is so much we can do to help others. We do not need to only think of them during the holidays as we can throughout the year donate and even buy items that we hold on to and bring down during the holidays. If you go to a Target or a Walmart once a week, why not add that $.97 car or peruse the clearance section and pick up a few items once a month? The buy one get one Free or the buy one get one half off, donate the second item, take advantage of other sales so that the holiday gift giving is not such a hit on your wallet and you can remember those that are unable to have adequate and proper fitting clothes for themselves and their kids, food and toys.
Look around you and look at the walls that are adorned with photos, art, book shelves, sit on your bed and feel how comfortable it is, tug on the blankets that keep you warm each night, look differently inside the pantry, the fridge and freezer and instead of wondering what to cook for dinner, be grateful you have food to cook for dinner and imagine in a minute it all being gone. Imagine not being able to buy a gift for your child, being able to purchase a warm coat, hat or gloves, imagine hearing the growls of the stomachs and not being able to feed them … this is the the reality for so many, many of which just a few months ago were laying on the comfortable bed, tugging on the blankets and making lists of what to buy for friends and family this year.
Being thankful for those that are in your life that make a difference and brighten your day is not just limited to the holidays, as we cherish and thank them all year round. They are there when we need them with that reassuring voice that everything will be ok or will get better. This holiday gift giving season, be that reassuring voice through giving to make a difference in someone elses life.