Mentoring – what is it? Why do it? Do you need a mentor? All of which are valid questions and in this post I will take the time to answer them and explain why finding a mentor will help you grow and take your business to the next level.
I want to be honest and I say that I wasn’t really planning on writing this post, however it was kind of put to me as a challenge and therefore having a competitive nature I took it on and here we are.
I placed a quote on my Facebook Status and I received a response, which you can see below.
I learnt from a very early age that you cannot do everything on your own and in order to tackle a new challenge it is easier to find someone who has done it before and learn from them. Crawling, walking, riding a bike, driving a car we do all these things with the help and guidance of others.
What is the point in making an avoidable mistake?
Yes, we are supposed to learn from our mistakes, but what if we could bypass the majority of mistakes associated with a task and progress to mastering that art. It would be like learning to read without knowing the alphabet.
In this age of the internet and social media, finding a mentor – someone who has already done what you want to achieve, or a mastermind group of like minded people who share your aspirations and goals, is far easier than in years gone by.
In order to make the most of these new relationships, when finding a mentor I would suggest the following:
- Choose someone you would like to emulate.
- Makes sure they excite you.
- Look for someone that encourages you.
- Understand that person’s goals and aspirations and see if they align with yours.
- Look for someone who provides constructive criticism.
- Choose someone who demands you do the best you can do.
People with this level of influence do not grow on trees and they don’t wear name badges, so you need to be enterprising when finding a mentor. Connect with people, watch and learn what they are saying and how they do it. Then when you feel comfortable that this person can support you on your path to success, approach them and see if they would be willing to support you.
Many people would be flattered, being asked to be a mentor would suggest that success of some level has been achieved and would take the time to get to know you better and understand exactly why you are looking for a mentor, what you want to achieve and how they can help you do it.
Even if they decline to support you don’t be dismayed, as the likelihood is they will give you some advice to push you in the right direction which will be invaluable. It could be as simple as providing you with a better technique to approach potential mentors in the future so that your request is accepted.
Although finding a mentor usually means searching for already established and successful people, don’t underestimate the value of the people who you already associate with. You connect with these people for a reason. What is it? Does that person exude confidence? When one of your friends speaks, how come everybody stops to listen?
Each and every person we mix with has valuable qualities. Ask them how they do the things they do, watch them, learn from them and incorporate these positive traits into your personality, helping you become a well rounded person.
The truth is that we will never achieve our full potential on our own. That’s why great sports people have coaches, the president has advisors and great actors have a director to help them see reason and bring out their best.
Finding a mentor will encourage you, push you towards targets and hold you accountable for your mistakes. Without the right guidance people over commit to needless expenses, waste inordinate amounts of time on doings things that will not help them achieve their goals.
Give yourself the gift of leveraging the success of others. While you are on your journey to success, make sure you get yourself some support and guidance from people who have walked the road before.