Turns out you are what you talk about.
If you fat shame yourself, then your brain lays down a new set of neural pathways to ensure you feel fat – even if you aren’t. Then, as you repeat your so-called problem to your friends or yourself, you develop even greater dissatisfaction with your body. The final gift from your lips? An increased potential for an eating disorder. That’s why you can no longer “feel fat” on Facebook. At least officially. Because it causes you to harm yourself.
So, let’s say your okay with your fat situation. Your body is okay. And you just said,
“Wow, I’m such an idiot in math. I am dumbfounded by Excel. I never really understood it, and the latest update is beyond me. ”
“Geez, I cannot write this report on time. I am awful at reports. I don’t even know where to start on these things.”
“Gosh, I am such a procrastinator. I keep putting things off. Then, I get so nervous I just rush to get them done. It’s never right, but I settle for done.”
“Man, I am always lost. I could have a GPS, a satellite helmet and a self-driving car. I would still get lost.”
“ Argh, I will never date again. I will never find one decent human being on this planet who loves me. I hate this whole relationship-thing.”
Ta da! You have just created your own life. These negative meditations are laying tracks in your brain, and your train of thoughts know exactly where to go: again and again. You trash talk yourself silently. Your trash talk yourself with friends.
In just a sentence or two each day, you trash your possibilities, your confidence and your happiness.
Next time you call yourself stupid? Stop. Then tell yourself why you are not stupid. Give yourself evidence when you have been just fine, maybe brilliant.
Whatever mantra you’ve been using to cause a lifelong problem, be it about fat, math, software, writing, procrastination, navigation, relationships or more? It is literally all in your head, because it’s been on your lips.
Coach yourself to success!
- Identify the personal traits you want to keep building into your personal brand and your personal intelligence.
- Find an affirming sentence.
- Set your brain to work finding the evidence of how great you are.
- Then lather, rinse and repeat.