blaming yourself I want to continue with this “Change” theme that I started in my post called, “How Badly Do You Want To Change Your Business Or Life?”

Today I want to talk about the NEXT step. Let me start by telling you a story…

The Whole World Stinks: A College Prank
I heard of story of two college students who decided one night to pull a prank on a sleeping fraternity brother. They took Limburger cheese and rubbed it gently on his upper lip.

When he woke up, he sniffed, looked around and said, “This room stinks!” Then he walked out into the hall and said, “This hall stinks!” As he was leaving the dorm, they could hear him say, “The whole world stinks!”

The two college students laughed as they saw him walk away, because they knew their buddy was going to walk around blaming the smell on everything else around him, when the problem was with him!

The Angry Neighbor
When my wife and I were first married we used to live in a one bedroom apartment in Redwood City, CA. There was an older man who lived on the 2nd story of an apartment building in the lot next to ours. His patio overlooked our garage.

One day I got talking to the man and he began complaining about some of our neighbors and saying how mean they were to him. I listened and didn’t know what to think about those neighbors anymore.

He told me he needed some help and I told him I’d talk to some people I knew and see if they could help him. The problem was I wasn’t able to get a hold of these people for awhile.

He ended up coming to our apartment one day yelling and telling my wife off!

I finally had to talk to him and explain to him that I couldn’t get a hold of the people I thought might be able to help him. I told him I should’ve let him know what had happened, but I didn’t appreciate him yelling at my wife. I told him I didn’t want him coming over to our place and ever doing that again.

After talking to the neighbors he warned me about, they told me that they had the same problem with him. This guy reminds me of the guy with Limburger cheese on his lip! He was blaming everyone else for his problems, never realizing that maybe the reason he had the same problem with everyone was because he was the problem.

A lot of people are like this.

They blame everyone else for their problems. Some people blame their parents. Some people blame their friends, their customers, their employees, or even the economy.

But the real problem is that they never take responsibility for their own problems! That’s why people stay stuck where they’re at and never see change!

They’ve been blaming everyone and everything all their lives.

Business philosopher Jim Rohn said it this way, “I used to say ‘I sure hope things will change.’ Then I learned that the only way things are going to change for me is when I change.”

Do You Want Things To Change?

1. The first step to seeing change in your business and life is to really want change.

2. The second step is starting with yourself.

The hardest part is actually applying these truths in your business!

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