If there is a single definition of healing

it is to enter with mercy and awareness those

pains, mental and physical,

from which we have withdrawn in judgment and dismay.

Stephen Levine

A jam-packed schedule, living life in full tilt is one of the results of living in our current age. You feel compelled to be as efficient as possible at work, at home, and in your social life. But, these same pursuits can also wreak havoc on your emotional well-being. So, how can you take care of your mental state as you keep striving to live your best life?

Here are a couple of strategies that can help you be sure that your emotional self is well-cared-for:

1. Acknowledge your feelings every day. Something as simple as stopping to ask yourself, “How do I feel today?” can go a long way toward emotional self-care.

  • Doing this daily reflection shows that you are aware of your own feelings and also indicates that you see them as important. Performing a feelings self-check ensures you remain in effective control of your emotions.
  • There will be fewer incidents of flying off the handle, making sarcastic remarks, or getting annoyed and showing it.
  • Stay on top of your feelings to enjoy a more fulfilling life.

2. Speak up for yourself when necessary. When you feel that you have been wronged or misunderstood, simply state your feelings and what you would like to see happen.

  • For example, “I think my remark yesterday about not wanting to drive the four of us on the shopping trip was not clear. What I meant to say was that my car will only hold one other person, so I am unable to accommodate 3 riders. Can one of you drive instead?”
  • When you speak up for yourself, you show yourself that what you think and feel is important enough to be noticed and discussed with those around you.

3. Stay tuned in to your close relationships. One thing you want to avoid is having a bunch of relationships filled with angst, disappointment, and anger. You can do this by staying in touch with your significant other and other individuals with whom you have close relationships.

  • If a relationship is important to you, it is worth your time and effort to know what is going on emotionally with the other person. Additionally, your emotional life will be more satisfying and peaceful when you do.

4. Have some fun every day. When you smile and enjoy life, the benefits to your emotional life are great. Happiness and levity are good fuel for the soul. Enjoy at least a little fun each day.

  • Engage in your favorite hobbies or tell jokes with your partner.
  • Skype your best friend.
  • Play cards with your neighbors or invite your buds over and order out.

5. Talk out loud about what is troubling you. Whenever you have negative, nagging feelings, these can weigh you down emotionally. Try not to get to the point where you begin feeling consistently upset or on-edge, or acting out emotionally with others.

  • Speak to someone about those challenging feelings. It can be a close friend, your significant other, or even a professional if you desire.

6. Ensure your work is as low-stress as possible. You have a responsibility to yourself to take the necessary steps to try to adjust your work load, due dates, or other challenges to reduce your job stress.

7. Trim negative relationships from your life. Because relationships can be so paramount to your existence, it is wise to ensure that they are each as positive and supportive as possible. It can help to occasionally weed out those who stunt your emotional growth or detract from your emotional health. I know, it sounds cruel. But these people will drain you.

Your life is a blessing!

Enjoy it to its fullest by taking excellent care of yourself emotionally as well as physically. Try a few of these ideas to experience the enriched existence you desire.

To your continued success!!

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