I promise you nothing is as chaotic as it seems.

Nothing is worth your health.

Nothing is worth poisoning yourself into stress, anxiety, and fear.

Steve Maraboli

Social anxiety

Do you feel overwhelmed by your own expectations about festive occasions, as well as others? Does the prospect of upcoming social gatherings make you feel uncomfortable? Deep down inside, you know that you would like to go to the parties and other social events. But you choose not to go, more often than not, because you get very nervous about meeting new people. New situations along with the thought of meeting new people, scares you. And crowds only make things worse for you.

You worry. Will you know what to say? Will you know what to do? Will they stare at you, and make you feel insignificant? Will they reject you outright? Even if they are really nice people, they will be sure to see that frozen look on your face and your inability to relax. They will somehow feel your sense of discomfort and they won’t like you. There is just no way to win. So, once again, you choose to skip the party and stay home. You feel comfortable at home. In fact, home is the only place you do feel 100% comfortable.

You also know deep inside that these feelings and thoughts are irrational, and you may be feeling a little frustrated that you are unable to conquer them. If all this seems familiar to you, then it proves once again, that intelligence doesn’t necessarily make it easier to stop the feelings or make them easier to deal with. And worse still is that social anxiety does not come and go like some other physical or psychological problems. If you have social anxiety one day, you have it every day for the rest of your life.

But, the good news is, that you are not alone!

Your thoughts rule you

How you think and feel about yourself is often the difference between happiness and success, or frustration and failure. You are a product of your own thinking. So every thought you think has an impact on you. You respond to your negative thoughts, just like you do to your positive thoughts. Unless you try to change things, your subconscious mind will continue to flood your body with the negative messages and recordings that have been ingrained for years. If you have failed in the past to live up to your own expectations, your memories are loaded with negative programming and this is what you need to work to change.

Your life will begin to improve when you begin to believe in yourself and your own abilities. You will feel respected. This will give you an extra boost to increase your motivation and your enthusiasm for life will increase noticeably.

Hoping won’t cut it…

You have to act. Having a desire to make changes is a good thing. Taking action to start something is even better. Let us make the assumption that you have decided right now. You are ready to start making the changes that you want to see in yourself. If you have tried before and failed, you need to find a support structure. Why? This will help you keep your resolve and to help you keep your thought processes in check and focused on your goals.

Self-help is one of the few ways to permanently stop anxiety and confidence-related problems. Ultimately, only you can change the way you think and act. No one else can get inside of you and do it for you. Counseling, mentors, guidance and support can certainly help, but even with these, you still have to do it for yourself.

What’s your plan?

If you are feeling that life isn’t all it could be, what do you plan to do about it? Do you want to overcome the obstacles that you know are standing in your way? Will you finally be able to realize more of your potential and get even more from life, relationships and your career?

You have it within yourself to succeed. Never doubt that! You will achieve success if you make sure that you put an effective support system into place as soon as possible.

What’s stopping you?


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