Communication and Understanding

We begin, as we often do, with definitions. There is some weight to learning to communicate well and appropriately. Many people think communication occurs simply by speaking. But, the information has to be taken in, processed, understood, and then, hopefully acted upon. Imagine a lecturer standing in a great hall. Every person is doodling, looking at their phone screen, or occupied in some other manner. Certainly, the lecturer is speaking coherently, but the information is not being received.

What does communication mean?

Communication is the act or process of imparting, interchanging, or transmitting thoughts, opinions, or information by speech, writing, or signs.

To misunderstand, is to take the communicate words or statements in a wrong sense; to understand words or behavior wrongly.

Understanding communication wrongly or incorrectly means that if we act on information at all, we will act in the wrong ways. This is as true for one-on-one communication as it is for one-to-group communication. But sadly, most of us do not listen to take in information. Our minds are busy formulating a response, or waiting for a gap in the talking to make some pithy remark or comeback.

How confidently we believe OUR meanings of other people

In personal conversations, it is important to learn to employ active listening techniques. What does that mean?Take in information, process it, feed it back to the person reaching out to you, reflect, and, only then mount an appropriate response.

It does not mean that we pre-judge the conversation, or give some well-practiced response. It means open our hearts, momentarily walking in the shoes of another, standing beside them and viewing the problem, filtering all of the information through the knowledge and wisdom we have acquired, sprinkling all that with kindness, and giving feedback. This cannot be done if you enter a conversation, assuming you know the outcome or the answer before it begins.

A misinterpretation of our false perceptions. debasish mridha

Perception Is Reality

We can only interpret the world as we see it. What each of us perceives is our reality, at least for that instant. We can add facts to this body of perceptions, and we can grow beyond the ways in which our parents and teachers have taught us. We can change our minds, and our world, if we refuse to see everything in only one light.

Whether at home, at work, or chatting up a few friends, every issue has nuances to it. Every problem has a some kind of solution. We may not see the solutions clearly, at first, but they are present. Many of the solutions we come up with will feel familiar, things we have done before. But we can adapt the solutions and answers as we grow and get to know ourselves, and as we learn about other people and what is important to them.

We can grow.

We can learn to listen.

We can help others grow.

But, only is we choose to work at open, honest, and active communication.

We have not communicated well Doc


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