Do you think that someone you know may not be telling you the truth? Here are 9 questions to ask yourself that may indicate someone is not being up front with you. These questions are simply indicators or warnings to consider so that you can decide whether to at least proceed with extreme caution.

1) Does the person discuss the present situation? 

People who are hiding something often gloss over the present situation and immediately jump to a different subject.

2) Does the person show different emotions?  

People who only show one emotion are often not telling us everything. Having a range of emotions is natural and normal. Ever have someone tell you how great things are or how wonderful you are? Although that might be nice to believe, in reality, rarely is one always happy and always happy with us. I have met people who said they never argued only to find out their spouse one day told them how unhappy they were and wanted a divorce.

3) When you ask a question, does the person answer it directly?

This may seem obvious, but often people who are hiding things skirt the issue, change the subject or answer it in a global, ambiguous or vague way.

4) Do you feel like you can ask that person anything?

Does the person encourage questions? People who have something to hide often don’t react well when questions are asked. By getting defensive and having a strong reaction, the person can create an environment where we can become afraid to ask them questions. This enables them to continue to do what they may be hiding.

5) Who does the person associate with? 

People can easily fool us by their charm. The company they keep is a good indication of who they are. People tend to surround themselves by those who are similar to them. For example, if someone who claims to be trustworthy is constantly in the company of untrustworthy people then is trustworthiness was that important of a trait to that person?

6) Is what the person says consistent with other things they may have said?

If you listen closely to what someone says and they are not telling the truth, you will often notice inconsistencies in what they say.

7) Does the person keep his or her promises?  

People often don’t keep their word on small things. However, they may rationalize that they keep their promises on the “big stuff.” This may be true, but it has been my experience that this is usually not the case.

8) How often do they tell you things they know you won’t want to hear? 

President Johnson once said, “If nobody is arguing, only one person is thinking” [or I would have said that only one person is being honest]. It is normal to have differing opinions. One indication that there’s a problem is if the person only tells you the positive side of things.

9) Does what the person says sound too good to be true?

You know the age-old adage, if it’s too good to be true; it usually is.