If you want to get along with others, whether it be in work or your personal life, it is important to put yourself in their shoes, as the adage goes, and understand the way their personalities handle things. So how can you do that? A good start is with a personality test.
Understand your personality, and other personalities
You may think that you cannot understand why your boss always feels she has to yell. Or why your assistant is so concerned about people getting along all the time. You are right – you may not understand them, because you do not understand their personalities.
The book Taking Flight! By Merrick Rosenberg and Daniel Silvert, explains the four major personality styles in what is known as the popular DISC personalty analysis. While the authors did not come up with the idea of DISC – William Marston, a psychologist who also created Wonder Woman, did – they did write a book that explains the personality types in an easy-to-understand way.
There are four main personality styles: Dominant, Influential, Sympathetic and Conscientious (depending on which author you read or life coaching expert you consult regarding DISC, the letters may stand for slightly different things.) The styles go on the continuum from task-oriented to people- oriented, and also from even-paced and reserved to fast-paced and verbal.
The authors of Taking Flight! use birds to illustrate the four main personalities. The eagle is a D, the parrot is an I, the owl is a C, and the Dove is an S. Here’s how it works:
- The eagle is “dominant, direct, decisive and driven”
- The parrot is “interactive, inspirational, influential and intuitive”
- The owl is “conscientious, cautious, concise, and correct”
- The dove is “supportive, sincere, steady and sympathetic”
Now, according to the DISC theories, all of us have some of these qualities, and are each a blend of all four personality types. But generally speaking, most of us are naturally more of one of these personality types than the others, although we could be two of the types at once, with strong undercurrents of one of the other personality types.
For example, the eagle, who is so dominant, could also be conscientious. The parrot, who is so friendly and willing to be the life of the party, could also have dovelike qualities imploring people to get along.
There is a lot more to the DISC theory – this only scratches the surface – but the most important thing to get out of this information is this – that until we understand others’ personality types, and what they value, we may never really understand them. And is we do not really understand our personality type, then we will never understand ourselves, and may be doomed to make the same mistakes over and over.
What you can do to put the DISC personality test
You can take a free DISC personality profile here to learn more how it works. And life coaching experts at this site can help you understand what to make about your own personality, and how it works with others. At any rate, doing so can be the first step to understand why others do things that you have not been able to understand so far. Good luck.